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When my partner Alexander embarked on his journey to London for his MBA, our once close-knit relationship was stretched across continents. As I grappled with visa constraints, we entered the uncharted waters of a long-distance relationship. This narrative unfolds the exploration of novel pathways to intimacy that distance necessitated we discover.
Conventional wisdom warns of the challenges posed by long-distance relationships. Despite the cautionary tales, my commitment to Alexander was unwavering. Determined not to let miles erode our bond, I delved into research, seeking new facets of connection to keep the embers of our love alight.
It was during this quest that I stumbled upon the world of BDSM and roleplaying—a suggestion from a close friend. Admittedly, the concept sent a chill down my spine. My understanding of BDSM—Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism—was rudimentary at best. Our intimacy had been confined to phone conversations and the exchange of provocative images. Venturing into BDSM and roleplaying meant stepping out of my comfort zone, a daunting yet exhilarating prospect.
My initial impressions of BDSM were clichéd, filled with images of latex and leather. However, discussions on forums and articles highlighted the essentials of a successful BDSM experience: trust, understanding, knowledge, and caring. These cornerstones resonated with our relationship, suggesting that perhaps we were ready for this journey.
The question then became, 'How to embrace the role of a Domme?' Reflecting on our past interactions, I realized our dynamic had always skirted the edges of power exchange. Alexander relished relinquishing control, while I reveled in dictating the pace of our encounters. Now, the distance demanded a more assertive approach from me.
My roleplay costume choice was inspired by our early dating days—I had been a nursing student, and Alexander often playfully referred to me as his 'bossy nurse.' Thus, 'The Sexy Nurse' became my persona for our next virtual encounter.
During my exploration, I encountered the term 'Teledildonics'—technology that enables sex toys to interact over any distance. Intrigued, I shared this with Alexander, and we decided to experiment. We invested in a paired toy set, the Pearl2 for me and the Onyx+ for him.
Our first role-playing and BDSM session unfolded over a video call. Slipping into my nurse costume, I initiated a playful scenario that gradually blended dominance and submission. The interactive sex toys allowed us to synchronize our movements and sensations, bridging the physical gap between us.
This experience opened a new chapter in our relationship. Our dialogues brimmed with fantasies, and I often surprised Alexander with spontaneous commands. Despite the physical separation, we discovered a profound level of intimacy and joy comparable to our time together in person.
About the Hedonistologist
The Hedonistologist is a project birthed by a French-born designer with passions for drawing and an appreciation for the human form. The project seeks to infuse erotic art with a fresh, personal aesthetic, advocating for a liberated view of sensuality, sexuality, and wellness within human cultures.
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About I Feel You
#IFeelYou stands as a testament to the power of innovation and technology in fostering connections that transcend distance. It is a movement celebrating love, equality, and respect. #IFeelYou echoes the belief that no distance is too great to diminish the bonds of love.
A collaboration between KIIROO and the Hedonistologist, #IFeelYou is the anthem of free love, uniting art and technology in the name of passion and intimacy.