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Embarking on the journey of LGBTQ+ allyship can be daunting. You might wonder, "Am I contributing positively? Could I accidentally be offending someone?" Fear not. The cornerstone of allyship is offering genuine support through love, understanding, and respect. Below, find key pointers on how to navigate the path of informed and compassionate LGBTQ+ allyship.
Do: Embrace correct terminology. Begin with foundational terms, such as those provided in the list of LGBT terms from the University of Massachusetts. Empower yourself with knowledge.
Don't: Resort to using 'gay' or similar terms as insults. If it's a habit, it's time to make a change. Language matters.
Do: Use people's correct pronouns. When in doubt, ask. This demonstrates that you’re attentive and respectful of their identity. Pronouns are not preferences—they are affirmations of identity. Offer your own pronouns and inquire about theirs in return.
Don't: Belittle or question their pronouns. Avoid making statements like, "It's challenging to refer to you as 'they,'" or "But you don't seem gay." Such remarks are demeaning. If you slip up, simply correct yourself without excessive apologies.
Do: Support your LGBTQ+ friends and family openly. Embrace their relationships as normal and understand the distinction between sexual orientation and gender identity.
Don't: Devalue LGBTQ+ individuals with backhanded compliments or dismissive statements. Never say things like, "You'd be such a catch if you weren't gay," or "I see you as a person, not as trans." Such comments, although sometimes well-intentional, are deeply offensive.
Do: Make your support visible. Participate in Pride events, sport supportive symbols, and challenge intolerance in your everyday life. Ensure you're providing a safe environment for LGBTQ+ individuals with actions like offering gender-neutral facilities.
Don't: Confine your allyship to LGBTQ+ environments. True allyship is constant and pervasive, not situational.
Do: Listen attentively to LGBTQ+ individuals sharing their experiences. Advocate for them in their absence and seize every opportunity to stay informed and supportive.
Don't: There's no 'don't' here—open, respectful communication is always a 'do'.