The Integral Role of Pleasure in Sexual Health

Debates on the inclusion of pleasure in sexual education have been profound and polarizing. With a tendency towards fear-based sex ed that emphasizes the perils of sexual activities, comprehensive sex ed's recognition of pleasure is often perceived as a dangerous incentive. Yet, the essence of sexual pleasure should not be understated or marginalized in educational narratives.

As a seasoned sexual health columnist, I've consistently advocated for the critical discussion of pleasure in both educational institutions and familial settings. It's high time we acknowledge that sexual pleasure is not just an indulgence but a fundamental aspect of our sexual wellbeing.

But what exactly constitutes sexual pleasure? The Global Advisory Board for Sexual Health and Wellbeing encapsulates it as 'the physical and/or psychological satisfaction and enjoyment derived from a range of erotic experiences, including solitary or shared activities, fantasies, and dreams.' This definition underscores the importance of consent, safety, privacy, and confidence—all of which are pillars of our sexual rights.

Diversity in preferences means that pleasure is a highly subjective experience. What may bring joy to one individual could be a source of discomfort to another.

Unpacking the Significance of Pleasure

Is the significance of pleasure self-evident? While one might assume so, studies reveal that aside from attraction and physical pleasure, which are primary motivators for engaging in sex, there are myriad other reasons—including social status, self-esteem, and external pressure—that may not prioritize personal pleasure. This perspective on sex, devoid of self-fulfillment, is disheartening.

Here's why mutually pleasurable sex is paramount: it simply feels good. When one is immersed in the moment, attuned to the sensations, and engaged in a genuine connection, sexual activity transforms into a source of genuine joy.

Understanding your own sources of pleasure is the key to enhancing future sexual experiences. This knowledge empowers you to seek more pleasure and effectively communicate your desires to your partner(s).

Recognizing your right to pleasure paves the way for healthier sexual relationships. It encourages you to set boundaries and engage in continuous dialogue about sexual needs and expectations.

Pleasure does wonders for your health. It is associated with numerous benefits, including improved sleep, self-esteem, fitness, reduced stress, and an overall boost in physical and mental health. From a relational standpoint, it fosters trust, intimacy, and love.

It is your prerogative to embrace and own your sexual desires. Our society has a history of regulating sexuality and desires, often with a conflicting approach that both objectifies and shames. It's crucial that we dismantle the judgment surrounding the pursuit of pleasure, especially for women.

If you've been sidelining your pleasure, consider this a call to action. You are fully deserving of pleasure, and it's time to place it at the forefront of your sexual experiences.